Life Turns On A Dime

It's been a rough couple of weeks. Eric has not been doing well health-wise and we spent Friday in the emergency room. Before that, Kari suffered an injury and was out for Vegas. Eric was feeling better by yesterday morning and said he still wanted to see Aerosmith. Fine. Unbeknownst to me that while I writing my hopeful Aerosmith post for yesterday, my girlfriend Christa was dead. She was also going to meet us in Vegas for the residency.

Christa was a wonderful woman who injected energy into every room she entered. She dedicated her life to improving her community. To say her death is a shock is an understatement. My brain feels like scrambled eggs and I have had about 24 hours to process the news. I found out on Facebook, because 2019 I guess. She was young and this isn't supposed to happen.

I can't go see Aerosmith without her this week. We were friends for about two decades, dating way before this website was even an idea. She had a huge passion for music and could hear literally any song one time and immediately remember the words and melody. She could probably pick up her french horn and play it for you too!

Don't take anything for granted.

Comments

[fletch]

My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your beloved friend. Peace.

[Kixchix]

Sorry for your loss. Stay strong (Eric as well) Rock even harder next weekend in Vegas if you see Aerosmith!!!! Peace

[Bob]

Allyson, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my very closest friends to a very long battle with Cancer when he and I were both only 27. I would never pretend that I know what your friend would want you to do, but if I were a betting man, I would wager 10 to 1 at least that she wouldn't want you to miss out on this rare opportunity to see your favor band in such a special context. speaking as someone whom has been through this, I know you may not realize this now, but in time, although you will always miss Christa, as long as you carry her in your heart, and your memory, the thought of her will still put a smile on your face. also, I am glad that Eric is doing better. take a few minutes today to hold each other tight. Much love and peace to both of you.

[Metalboy!]

So sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Christa, Allyson.

My prayers to her, her family and you as you go through this difficult time.

[Him]

Condolences, Allyson. Truly. Life throws these things at us at a quicker pace as we age. How we handle them is perhaps the best measure of our humanity.

My friend and mentor succumbed to brain cancer little more than three weeks ago (as I noted on here at the time). I found out while I was on a train heading to Amsterdam. His wife was thoughtful enough to reach out and let me know personally. It felt like someone tore apart something I didn't even know existed, that mix of understandable grief and unexpected pain. And I had to keep up appearances because I was with a group of people. They held his vigil and funeral just this past week.

We never know what can happen, when it will happen, or how we will cope with loss when it strikes so close to home. But we do know that we can get past it. We know, as Bob suggests, that people remain with us by virtue of the memories we keep, and by the way we honor those we lose with the things we do to keep their memory alive. That is cold comfort in the moment. But it is an amazing gift we have as humans. We cherish the past and live for the future, even if the present feels raw and cold.

As with everyone in this grand extended BBG! family, I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

[crued]

Alley-Kat-
Condolences my friend.Thats terrible news:( hope Eric has a speedy recovery!

[Shawn]

So saddened to hear of your loss and struggles with life. May Eric get well soon. The only thing I ever get positive from such painful loss is that it is a reminder to live to your fullest while you can. A little military mantra for you, hope it helps bring clarity and ease the pain. "Live to honor the fallen because we owe it to them to carry on as they would want us too".

[Rita]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Condolences to you Allyson. I hope your husband's health improves as well.

Him - I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend as well.

[Bryon]

Wow - so sorry to hear this. My condolences, and hoping your husband gets well soon.

[oper8n]

So sorry to hear of your loss. It's never easy.

[Dj]

So sorry to hear about your friend, it's never easy to deal with at first, but trust me it does get better with time. The best thing to do is to remember the good times always and to keep their memory alive with positive things.

[Jack T Ripper]

Very Sad and Sorry About the Loss of your Friend! May God Bless you in this difficult time.

[texjay]

Sending thoughts and prayers your way Allyson!!!

[EddieLongHair]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, Allyson. Peace to you and your loved ones.

[ColsCPA]

Stay strong for your friend! My deepest sympathies for you and your family!